To begin, I’d like to post a disclaimer that the information contained in this blog regards specific events in my life or opinions I hold to be true myself. I am not asking you to agree, I am simply sharing what I believe to be true based on my own, personal experience. I would, in fact, welcome any replies either in agreement or to the contrary.
Now, to examine possible results of that question I posed earlier: Are you a beneficial member to the teams of which you belong? Let’s first examine those of you who responded with an astounding “YES!” Many of us tend to rate ourselves a bit on the high side, thereby ignoring our deficiencies. Or denying them. This is common. Face it, if I don’t think I’m great, then who else will? Taking this stance can be dangerous if taken to the extreme. We all know those individuals who seem to think they know everything or that they’re the best at everything, right? Self praise is very ugly and tends to strain working relationships. Besides, if you’re THAT good, then everybody knows it. You don’t have to tell them. In fact, the more you brag, the more your teammates will resent you and look for examples indicating the contrary. And this is not hard to find. I mean, we are human, right? Everybody makes mistakes.
Now, what about those who responded “no” ? This may indicate a low self-esteem or low self-image. These folks need building up to a degree. It takes time to build self- confidence. Encourage these teammates with appropriate praise, NEVER fabricated. Over time, some of these individuals may blossom beyond belief. That’s called nurturing. And it really works.
And the rest of you fall somewhere in the middle. First identify your own personal qualities and then examine those of your teammates’ fairly. What changes in your own behavior might help to increase the success of your teams? That’s what we all want, right? Success. And hopefully, WE’RE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER!!!